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Jun. 7th, 2012 10:13 pmThanks for your help last night, guys. I was tired when I posted, which always results in me being overly-emotional, so by the time I got sleep I felt a little better, and your comments were the best of all. Thanks.
In other news, this just happened on the au pair board:
Girl 1: Not that I'm huge into airing out my dirty laundry but I thought I should share. The host family and I got along pretty well [...] We had a huge falling out when the parents came home for lunch one day and the table wasnt set and the kids had gotten water on the floor during their bath. The mom berated me and threw the plates on the table as I scurried to set the table and the dad proceeded to shout every curse word I know in French bc of the water on the floor (sidenote: water evaporates). I walked out of the house crying and didnt speak to them all weekend until Sunday when we had a sitdown and the father apologized. No worries, the mom didnt. She basically started yelling at me again, called me selfish, rude, lazy, disrespectful and said i overreacted by crying and walking out of the house to be in my room. At this point I realized there was no point trying to argue with "crazy". Since then things never went back to how they were. The relationship was super strained, their was always tension and I, of course, was extremely resentful. Their cleaning lady quit so I was expected to fill that role and eventually I came to the decision to leave the family bc...I damn well felt like it. :) I emailed them the other day as a letter or resignation from here in the US. Super sweet letter expressing my gratitude for everything but saying I had to stay in the states bc i wanted to be closer to my mother since shes been having heart troubles (lie) and telling them I understand theyll be disappointed but the children will forever be in my heart. Their response was to basically say im selfish again, i broke the childrens heart, im "so cool" for deleting the mom off facebook, they hope the kids forget about me and that i need to send them their keys and phone back for the next au pair whos room they now need to fix bc i left trash there (damn right i did! now YOU have to pick up MY trash!). they still owe me 400 euros for the navigo...theyre not getting shit back. With all this said, I moved my stuff out while they were on vacation to a new apt, kept Susan up to date, emailed them while I'm here in the states so i dont have to deal with their wretched stupidity in person and completely removed myself from a terrible environment and an even worse situation.. When I go back to Paris I will have my own place and will no longer have to be treated like an animal. im sharing this because i really want to say: Girls, you're almost there! Almost at the finish line! Congrats and keep your head up and dont ever let ppl mistreat you like these families have done EVER again. Props to everyone for making it out alive and mucho mucho love!
Me: I'm glad you escaped, I kinda wish I had the balls to do so but I know the right thing for me was to stick it out. Side note: I get yelled at at least once a month, like dramatic shouting and insulting everything from the clealiness of my room to my personality to the fact that I don't tend to vacuum their floors. When I brought this up to [the agency lady], she kind of brushed it off saying French people have hot tempers. So... are you guys all getting yelled at? Because sometimes it makes me go into my room and cry. I feel like this is abnormal.
Girl 2: That's because it IS. I can't believe [the lady] brushed that off!
Girl 3: ive actually never had the problem of the parents yelling at. the minute one of them did, i would have been out. And actually i told my host mom that them yelling at their kids made me feel uncomfortable (b/c my parents never yelled at us)and they have pretty much stopped yelling at their kids. Just wanted to share this so that everyone knows that there are nice, sane families out there and you shouldn't have to settle for less.
I see.
I'm fine though, whatever. As long as I get a nice family next year (assuming I don't get into school, that is).
In other news, this just happened on the au pair board:
Girl 1: Not that I'm huge into airing out my dirty laundry but I thought I should share. The host family and I got along pretty well [...] We had a huge falling out when the parents came home for lunch one day and the table wasnt set and the kids had gotten water on the floor during their bath. The mom berated me and threw the plates on the table as I scurried to set the table and the dad proceeded to shout every curse word I know in French bc of the water on the floor (sidenote: water evaporates). I walked out of the house crying and didnt speak to them all weekend until Sunday when we had a sitdown and the father apologized. No worries, the mom didnt. She basically started yelling at me again, called me selfish, rude, lazy, disrespectful and said i overreacted by crying and walking out of the house to be in my room. At this point I realized there was no point trying to argue with "crazy". Since then things never went back to how they were. The relationship was super strained, their was always tension and I, of course, was extremely resentful. Their cleaning lady quit so I was expected to fill that role and eventually I came to the decision to leave the family bc...I damn well felt like it. :) I emailed them the other day as a letter or resignation from here in the US. Super sweet letter expressing my gratitude for everything but saying I had to stay in the states bc i wanted to be closer to my mother since shes been having heart troubles (lie) and telling them I understand theyll be disappointed but the children will forever be in my heart. Their response was to basically say im selfish again, i broke the childrens heart, im "so cool" for deleting the mom off facebook, they hope the kids forget about me and that i need to send them their keys and phone back for the next au pair whos room they now need to fix bc i left trash there (damn right i did! now YOU have to pick up MY trash!). they still owe me 400 euros for the navigo...theyre not getting shit back. With all this said, I moved my stuff out while they were on vacation to a new apt, kept Susan up to date, emailed them while I'm here in the states so i dont have to deal with their wretched stupidity in person and completely removed myself from a terrible environment and an even worse situation.. When I go back to Paris I will have my own place and will no longer have to be treated like an animal. im sharing this because i really want to say: Girls, you're almost there! Almost at the finish line! Congrats and keep your head up and dont ever let ppl mistreat you like these families have done EVER again. Props to everyone for making it out alive and mucho mucho love!
Me: I'm glad you escaped, I kinda wish I had the balls to do so but I know the right thing for me was to stick it out. Side note: I get yelled at at least once a month, like dramatic shouting and insulting everything from the clealiness of my room to my personality to the fact that I don't tend to vacuum their floors. When I brought this up to [the agency lady], she kind of brushed it off saying French people have hot tempers. So... are you guys all getting yelled at? Because sometimes it makes me go into my room and cry. I feel like this is abnormal.
Girl 2: That's because it IS. I can't believe [the lady] brushed that off!
Girl 3: ive actually never had the problem of the parents yelling at. the minute one of them did, i would have been out. And actually i told my host mom that them yelling at their kids made me feel uncomfortable (b/c my parents never yelled at us)and they have pretty much stopped yelling at their kids. Just wanted to share this so that everyone knows that there are nice, sane families out there and you shouldn't have to settle for less.
I see.
I'm fine though, whatever. As long as I get a nice family next year (assuming I don't get into school, that is).
